Girl Punches Boy In Face On "Jersey Shore." Yawn, No Big Deal....

Most of us recall when Snooki of Jersey Shore fame, was punched in the face by a young man after she verbally abused him and called him ugly. There was a huge outcry, and Snooki became the new spokesperson for violence against women.

Well, today I viewed a rerun of Jersey Shore (I was bored) and I witnessed the girl Sammie punch her boyfriend Ronnie in the jaw. Where is the public outcry? Where is the domestic violence spot condemning that act? If I would not have witnessed it, I would not have known about it. Worse yet, the roommates run to console the girl because she sobbing and wants to leave the house. The condition of the boy's jaw is virtually ignored except for one other boy who consoles him.

Violence against men is acceptable is the message. Men don't matter as much as women and men cannot truly be abused because they are not women.

What a beautiful society we live in!

How Should Men Define Personal Success?

The question came up on the Mancoat forum about redefining male success. We need to be careful about the term success, because it means different things for different people.

Ask yourself what would give you lifelong personal fulfillment. Are you at the point of personal fulfillment? If not, you are not a success just yet.

Personal fulfillment comes in many forms. Mother Theresa was personally fulfilled by living in poverty to help the less fortunate. Donald Trump is personally fulfilled by making successful business deals and appearing in the media. The hick from West Virginia is personally fulfilled by catching his dinner each night in the woods, and cooking it up on the wood stove.

The problem is that American culture, via Hollywood and Corporate advertising, put out the notion of success being the "American Dream" and most silly Americans bought into that. Many suffer from that mistake today.

What is success for me? Living abroad on a good salary, early retirement at age 50, and having serial relationships with women half my age. I don't need to be a millionaire, but money enables my success life so it is important. I don't want to be married, I don't need kids, and I don't buy into the nonsense that traps too many other men into wage slavery. In that sense, I'm a success too.

Success is a deeply personal assessment and don't let anyone determine for you what constitutes personal success for you.

What Is Behind the Meltdown of Asian American Men?

The Korean Virgina Tech gunman, the Filipino recently arrested by the FBI for racist death threats, and now, Jiverly Voong, opened fire on an Immigration Service Center in upstate NY. This is just the latest in a string of incidents where Asian men have unleashed murderous wrath on innocent people.

Let me begin by saying this is not an anti-Asian American rant. In fact, I acknowledge that the vast majority of Asian American men are hard-working, law-abiding, and upstanding citizens. But what is afoot here? I believe that some Asian men increasingly view this society as unjust and unfair to them who try to do all the right things.

Men's rights advocate, Winston Wu, is legendary for his diatribes against the social isolation to which American society relegates all but a few Asian men. They are expected to live up to unrealistic "positive" stereotypes, shunned by most America women as poorly endowed, and left on the sidelines unless they are needed for calculus advice or engineering services.

While none of the above justifies lashing out in violence, I believe the plight of Asian male isolation is at the root of this trend.

To my Asian brothers, the "American Dream" that your parents spoke so highly of is an illusion meant to dupe us into consumerism and wage slavery. The American women that reject you despite your years of hard work and upright living are not women as much as they are feminists. Do not resort to violence and suicide to air your grievances. Move abroad, remain unmarried, seek foreign women who would love you in ways and for reasons American women could never love you.

We all feel what you guys feel too, but violence will only serve to punish innocent people and vilify the legions of good men among you.

Constructively take charge of your life. Move abroad and free yourself of the delusion of America being the best that life has to offer.

Children CANNOT Grow Up To Become Anything They Want!

We've all heard the cliche before. Parents instilling the belief in their kids that they can become anything in life that they want. Barack Obama's rise to the Presidency has renewed the life of this nonsense.

Out self-esteem child rearing ethos goes too far here. Kids grow up thinking that desire is all that is necessary to become what they want. No concept of toil, struggle, failure, perseverance, skill-development, etc. is ever talked about.

Each successful American in all endeavors has to work at their craft with obsessive dedication to become great at it. No matter how badly I might want to become a physician, I will not unless I completely rededicate myself to the field. In all likelihood, I would not attain status a a physician because my desire to do what it takes to become one is wholly different than my desire be one.

This realization is what we are denying our children. I hope our youth begin to understand that if they dedicate as much effort to academics and personal development as they to video games and social networking, they would be poised to accomplish incredible goals.

I fear that youth in the developing nations have a devastating advantage over our youth in that there is an urgency and a hunger that are lacking in American kids. I fear this is the old irony of prosperity wherein comfort creates complacency. This current generation of young people is the first to be less affluent and successful than their parents' generation. American would do well to reverse this trend; let's start with the lessons we are teaching our impressionable children.